Finding the right words to say when writing in a bereavement card is a common stumbling block. It’s only natural to hope that you’re saying the right thing while chewing the end of the pen and feeling like your mind is blank. Your relationship with the recipient might naturally determine how personal you want to be in your message. The key is balancing sensitivity with compassion in your message and being authentic.
After years of creating beautiful memorial jewellery and preserving meaningful messages, we’ve collated some of the best advice when deciding what to write in a bereavement card.
The message inside a bereavement card
Here are some phrases, words and ideas about what you could write in a bereavement card:
- I am so sorry to hear about the death (or passing) of (the name of the person who has died). I know nothing I can say can ease the pain, but I am here for you, and I’m thinking about you.
- I know how much (the name of the person who has died) meant to you, and I can’t imagine what this loss feels like. You’re in my thoughts.
- My heart goes out to you at this difficult time, sending you and the family love.
- Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead, and loving memories to forever hold dear in your hearts
- Thinking of you as you celebrate (name’s) life. (Name) will live in my memories forever.
- Sending caring thoughts your way and wishing you peace and healing during this time.
- I am thinking of you at this difficult time and sending you a big hug and lots of love.
- Please remember that you are not alone, and I am always here for you
- May your happy memories give you peace and comfort during this challenging time
Include a meaningful memory or anecdote
If you would like to elaborate on your caring message, a beautiful way to do so is to include a memory or anecdote.
- I am so sorry to hear about (the name of the person who has died). They were such an incredible person, and I will never forget (a memory or anecdote).
- I am so sorry for your loss. He/She/They filled a room with laughter, and they will be so missed. I will never forget the time when (a memory or anecdote).
Include future contact and/or offer help
You could also include an offer of contact, such as the promise of a phone call or popping in to see them at a later date. Another option is offering help, such as bringing some food or helping with shopping. If they don’t want to open the door, leave them a note. Or go over and pick them up to see if they want to go for a walk or a coffee. People who are grieving need to know that they are not forgotten about, as grief can be an incredibly lonely time.
- I’ll touch base with you in a couple of weeks and/or when you’re ready, but please don’t hesitate to call me if you need anything in the meantime.
- If you need anything, please don’t hesitate to pick up the phone or message me. I can get your shopping, pick the kids up from school, or do your ironing… whatever you need, I’m here.
How to sign off your message
When you finish writing your message, you might wonder how to sign it off. Here are some lovely ideas:
- With love
- Lots of love
- Wishing you peace
- You’re in our thoughts
- With caring thoughts
- Thinking of you
- In caring sympathy
- With our deepest condolences
- I’m here for you
- With warm regards
- With all our love and support
We understand how difficult it is to write those all-important emotive words. The best message in a bereavement card comes from the heart, so be true to your feelings and emotions. Let your loved one know you’re thinking about them, and they’re not alone in their grief.